“There was absolutely no way my life could get any better. I was eighteen years young, but because I grew up in New York City, my ego allowed me to think that I could handle just about anything. My military career was to be short lived, (only three more years), but I was good at my job and was promoted three times in the last nine months; and I couldn’t have asked for a better bartending job.”
– an excerpt from the book
Author Reputation Press is honored to publish “Seven Ways To Treat A Lady: Confessions Of A Bartender” by Joseph P. Palmese. This book is now available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and the ARPress website.
The book “Seven Ways to Treat a Lady: Confessions of a Bartender” by Joseph P. Palmese offers a unique blend of personal experience and professional insights from the author’s years as a bartender.
Joseph Palmese spent fourteen years in the bar business, the next twenty-five in finance, but his heart still thinks he is a professional bartender. When he was younger, it was all about him. He considered specific physical attributes important: long, red hair, green eyes, the usual. But as he grew older, it became all about her. Making love to a woman’s soul is all about looking past the obvious and starts with knowing and understanding her and pleasing her, not himself.
As a young man of eighteen years, in the time when the Vietnam War was raging, Joseph Palmese was given a choice by the court: court-sanctioned probation and possible jail time or enlistment in the military. He chose the latter, joined the United States Marine Corps, and spent almost three years in Vietnam engaging in combat operations. But the mental stress and physical fatigue caused by his experiences in Vietnam had never tempered his dream of becoming a bartender, which he had a taste of right after boot camp. This book is about fourteen years of his life as a professional bartender, during and after the military, and his passion for beautiful women, good wine, and Las Vegas has only grown more intense over the years.
This narrative focuses on the author’s journey through life, tracing his transition from a young man facing tough decisions during the Vietnam War to finding his passion as a bartender. Palmese was compelled by the court to choose between military service and jail time, ultimately enlisting in the U.S. Marine Corps, where he served almost three years in Vietnam.
The book delves into several themes, including love, personal growth, and the art of bartending. It reflects Palmese’s evolving perspective on relationships, particularly how he learns to appreciate and treat women with respect and generosity, moving beyond superficial judgments. His passion for beautiful women and fine wine is juxtaposed with deeper insights as he matures throughout the narrative.
In addition to recounting bartending experiences, Palmese shares reflections on his life choices, both in and out of the military, articulating how these experiences shaped his understanding of what it means to treat a lady well. Over time, his focus shifts from outward appearance to inner qualities, emphasizing the importance of emotional connection and genuine understanding in relationships.
This memoir is both a tribute to the bartending profession and an exploration of the complexities of love and respect between men and women.
“Seven Ways To Treat A Lady: Confessions Of A Bartender” by Joseph P. Palmese is now available for purchase via ARPress Bookstore: